Wanted : dead or alive....!!

Same old story.... like many Malaysian families have encountered.... Pembantu rumah at my mom's house sudah lariiikkkk...!!!

hmmm... I am wondering what goes throough their mind when they do that... Effa has been with us for less than 6 months... Dpt pun illegally... supposed to be a cousin of Viviek/Bibik (in the middle in above photo). She was alrdy in Malaysia, and looking for a job... and we needed someone to help my parents at home (especially my mom who is not 100% mobile, leg injury..).

Tak disangka2... I believe that we have treated her well... No abuse for sure, and she was becoming part of the family... Shawl yang gua bawak balik dari Dubai hari tuh pun (utk bagi kat sedara mara), gua ada bagi sehelai kat dia... Iyalah, org berbudi, kita berbahasa... I must say that she has also been doing a good job at home... My mom was happy with her work, and when I was back in Ipoh during Raya, I can see myself that she was doing what she was supposed to be doing.... So, semua hepi2 ler...

The only thing is that rumah tuh memang senyap sikit... Only my parents left at home, her work was to make sure that the house is clean, cook for my parents, and accompany my mom whenever my mom goes to hospital for "wound cleaning & dressing"... and... that's about it... Since the house is a bit quiet, my mom let her go stay with her cousin at the nursing home from time to time....

Nak jadi cerita, one evening she stayed at the nursing home, andddd.... late evening, she left with a guy.... Viviek/Bibik pun (supposedly sepupunya... cakap depa nih bukan boley percaya sgt pun) tak terkata apa.... hmmm....

apa nak buat... nasib baik tak bayar apa2 to hire her last time.... (but my mom gave 3 weeks advance salary, because she said that she needed some money for family matters. Tak ada barang hilang kat rumah...)... Apa nak dikata...? dapat dia dulu pun secara tak halal..., dah asalnya tak bagus, langsung cam ni lah jadinya... what to do....

But seriously, I wonder what goes through her head... We were not demanding on her work, we treated her well... and I have to say that she also did her job well.... Kenapa nak ke tempat lain? dah la org buat cerita... "larik ikut jantan..."

so sesapa jumpa dia (photo, in red rectangular), cakap kat dia, "Bapak Johan kirim salam... Selamat Maju Jaya"

Why I have been so quiet of late....

nih gambo masa kat Berjaya Langkawi Resort... best melepak jer....:)

an extract of an email sent to a friend....

hope that you are doing fine... I am OK, things have started to pick up again after my Raya break... and gttng a bit busy... after nearly 3 months of inactivity (summer holidays, followed by Ramadan and Raya), gttg busy again is a bit tough...:)

just came back from Germany last week and am currently in Yemen for 3 days... meeting with customers... next week, some customers (mine of course), will be in Dubai for some training, and the following week will need to go to Damascus for 3 days again... it's just the "pick up" after long period of inactivity... it will calm down soon I guess (and hope)...

I have also not been that well... Somehow had an anxiety attack last Sun, just before going to Germany.... I was flushing non stop, didn't know what it was.... went back home from the office. That time, I thot that I needed more oxygen, so I was breathing in and out heavily... that actually caused an oversupply of oxygen to my brain, and it was shutting down... I was about to collapse (was seeing stars/ blanks/ crooked walls, buildings, feeling numb at fingers and head etc etc...). Called a friend to call the ambulance. Luckily, the paramedics arrived fast (within 10mn)... they said that if I was to continue breathing heavily (hyper ventilating) for the next 5mn, I would have easily collapsed...

masa tengah enjoy bercuti sakan kat Langkawi...

they told me what to do, to lie down, to breath normally... to breath in a plastic bag, while they checked the vital signs... everything was ok (including blood pressure...!! that was amazing...!! haha...). Conclusion, anxiety attack (the flushes) & hyper ventilation (the dizzyness and fainting)... (and I thot that I was doing the right thing to get rid of the flushes...!!) They advised me to consult a doctor for further check up, just in case... have not done that yet... hehe... But I think I know the cause, I was a bit busy the week before that... 45mn after that the paramedics left...

during that incident, I actually thot that I was having a heart attack....!!! well, never had an anxiety attack before... hahaha... what an experience...

proof that I am still alive and kicking arse....!!! haha...

so that's why la I have been a bit quiet... man man lai aaaa....! Go slow molow for the moment... and must start jogging again soon, must have a healthy lifestyle, haha... (wow, the last jog was during bulan Puasa...!! that's like 2 months ago...!!)

The killer sentence : "You are not that young anymore, Johan...!!"

kanena...!!! hahaha...

Kids : Abang & Adik

yang nih si Abang.... Fami... sempena dia lah yang kecil sorang masa dia lahir dulu, maka menjadi tumpuan lah dia....!! masyaAllah...!!! punyalah manja dgn Pakcik2 & Makcik2 dia....!!

yang ni pulak si adik, Firdaus : belum pandai lagi bermanja2 dgn Pakcik2 Makcik2 dia... tak lama lah tuh, nanti dia belajar dari abang dia..., abislah Pakcik2 Makcik2 dia kena pau nanti....!!! hahaha...!!!

Anak2 dan menantu Mat Nor.... (my arwah atuk, mom side)

Masa raya2 nih lah seronok jumpa sedara mara.... Raya ke3, my mom side had a family gathering... (anak2 Mat Nor)... best....!! jumpa bapak2 & mak2 sedara.... (dan laki bini & anak2 deme...).

a friend was talking about how the Malays call their uncle & aunties... well, here goes....

my mom, anak sulung... aka Mak Cho (mak yang beso, as in the eldest laaa...). one funny thing, we, the children call my mom "Enche"... dunno where that came from, but we have other relatives calling their mom "Enche" as well....

Wah, my 1st aunt.... dunno why suddenly we call her "Wah"... and again, we have some other relatives calling one of their aunts as "Wah" as well.... I seriously wonder where these appellations come from...

after Wah, arwah Opah meninggal (tumpah darah, giving birth to a still born baby)... both passed away (mother & child), so Tok Mat Nor, kawin baru... Maka dapatlah Mak Yong as the first child... In Perak, anak sulung is often called Yeop (male) or Yong (female).... since this is the first child from another mother, the cycle starts all over again.... So, Mak Yong... as in Mak yang sulong....??

then came Mak Nyah... supposedly "Mak yang tengah"

then Ayah Lang (right), and Ayah Pandak (left)... I think this is where the normal/regular applellations don't work anymore... banyak sgt dpt anak, so kena cari nama2 panggilan yang lain sket.... seriously dunno where panggilan "Ayah Lang" & "Ayah Pandak" come from...

then came Ayah Chik (ayah yang kecil...)

then came "Ateh"... (yang puteh...??)

after that "Achik"... errr.... there's alrdy "Ayah Chik", why got anthr "Achik"...? confusing...

Pak Tam.... (Pakcik yang itam...??? hantam sajalah Labuuuuu....!!! dah banyak sgt anak, kasi taruh saja depa punya nama panggilan.... hehe...)

Pak Tan... (sebabnya, masa kecil Pak Tan was called Atan by my Atuk...). Pak Tan is only 1 year my senior...

missing in action is Pak Su (Pakcik yang bongsu...). Tak dpt cuti, kena keghojer kat KL... Obviously, Pak Su is younger than me.... so I have 1 "pakcik muda"... nasib baik sorang jer... Can you imagine how many "younger uncles & aunts" my elder brothers & sisters have.... Pening kepalo memikiokannya....!! confusing laaa.... haha...

quite impressive, out of 12 siblings, sorang jer tak dpt dtg... itupun sebab tak dpt cuti....

then come the spouses....

Pak Usop, husband to Mak Yong.... supposed to be called Pak Yeop, or Ayah Long (ayah yg sulong...)

Pakcik Majid, husband to Mak Nyah.... supposedly called Ayah Nyah (ayah yang tengah)

from left, Mak Andak, wife to Ayah Pandak, Mak Tam, wife to Pak Tam... dunno who iin the middle, and Achik on the extreme right...



Mak Lang/ Mak Yang... wife to Ayah Lang

Makcik Murni, wife to Pak Tan

Pakcik Rosli & Pak Teh, husband to Achik & Ateh

In a nutshell, 1 big happy family... eh, ya ker...? hehe...

banyak orang, banyak ler ragamnya...:)

Fami, si kemetot....!! :)

tempat tuh utk tolak kerusi roda la Fami oooiiii....!! utk turun naik tangga, bukannya tempat gelongsor...!! haha.... hancus budak sekor nih....!!

so cute though...!! :D

photo taken masa Raya ke3, family gathering kat my mom's nursing home...